'My women graduate student friends and I talk about when (or if) to have a family, as women who want to also wear the 'saving the world cape' or have a vibrant career. We already have two or three strikes against us when trying to compete professionally on the global stage - being women, being black and African. We can't also be the pregnant African postdocs needing extra attention and accommodation in a highly competitive environment.
I had already lost a lot being in the US getting a PhD: my mom passed away from complications with her chemo before I could make it to her side. I do want a family of my own, but do not think it should be a choice over my career... I am expecting a baby boy in September🤰🏾. Most of us have to pick career or motherhood. For Africans it can be very depressing - we are very social but also bear the responsibility of care for relatives whose very survival depends on us making it.'